Think back to a time when you were in desperate need of help. If you are currently in this situation, think this also.

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• What does a person act like, that could help you through this hard time?

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• What have they achieved in their life, that makes you trust their opinion?

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• Why do you think of them first?

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• How did they gain their knowledge / wisdom?

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• What would I need to do in my life, to develop the attributes they have?

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Ask yourself these questions, to understand what a reliable, insightful, trusted individual would be like. 

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I'm assuming you would want your issues to be kept secret, if you discussed them with that person, so start becoming more trustworthy. Gossip and spreading others' news isn't something I believe to be a mature way of living life.

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What good does it bring to slander someone behind their back, after they have come to you in a time of need? You are the first person, or one of the first people they thought to speak to whilst going through a hard time, and you choose to break that trust? That's not very noble.​

 

So, this person you have thought of, did you think of this person because they are more intelligent than the rest? Well, how do you think they got there? Become as intelligent as they are, by working hard at a craft. In 10 years time, you may become the most intelligent person someone knows, and your help may save their life.

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How do I pick my craft? That's easy. What interests you? What do you already do that you enjoy? Become really good at that.

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Has this person solved problems you are struggling to solve? Ask them how they did it, and listen very carefully to what they tell you. The people I think very highly of, and would speak to in a time of need, are people I have determined to not be deceivers. 

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If they tell me something to help, I can fully trust they aren't gatekeeping information from me.

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This is part of it too. As I've stated, be trustworthy, but also have integrity. If you're someone who is quick to step on toes for your own gain, think about changing that. I am a Christian, so I believe God sees all that we do. 

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Try and think like this too. If you don't want to believe in God, fine. Every time you go to step on someone's toes to benefit yourself, think of your Mother, Father, or another figure who's been there for you in life. Would they want to see you treat someone like that?

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Start to become better every single day. Question how, someone you consider so highly, managed to become the way they are today.

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It may take years to develop similar attributes to them, but knowing how to get there will make it much easier.

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Become stronger, more intelligent, braver etc. because one day, someone may come to you seeking help, and you may be the only person they look for.

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