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Certain people you encounter in life will not take a liking to you, for whatever reason. You may never find put the reason, but they'll make it blatantly obvious that they're not your biggest fan.

 

You are whatever suits their narrative.

 

If you try, and fail, you’re incapable for not succeeding. Others who try, but fail are considered enthusiastic, and were just unlucky on the day.

 

You’re not allowed to make mistakes if they want to believe you're incapable.

 

If you’re perceived as stupid, any mistake will be judged heavily, and everyone will just assume you’re hopeless. Others, again, will be let of with the exact same mistake, whilst you gather a reputation as a fool.

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If you do then succeed, after making a really good attempt to better yourself, and ensure there are no future failures, then 'you're trying too hard'.

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Some people will make sure you cannot win. 

 

Your skills or achievements are never recognised by them, only your mistakes. As soon as you make a mistake they pounce on it. Any faults you have will be greatly highlighted by them and used against you.

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Words will be put into your mouth, so they can twist this narrative, and paint you out as whatever they want you to be.

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I've dealt with this in life. What made it worse, was that it was a group situation.

 

A group can very easily have influence over an individual, when the individual isn't there to defend themselves.

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Now, there may be slight truth to what they are saying, and that is why they push a certain narrative. But, if you are disliked, it will be amplified, greatly. 

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Their friends will make the same mistakes you do, but will not face the same scrutiny that you do.

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As I've said before, you can't win. 

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You stand up for yourself, they'll have something to say.

 

For example, you say something to call them out, and they claim you're being emotional. If you retaliate back to one of the group, someone is always there to jump in and defend them.

 

If you don't say anything back, you're a coward. 

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You are whatever suits their narrative, and it is bullying.

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Avoid these people as much as you can. Ignore them as much as you can. They may start to make comments about your silence, but it is important you don't crack. Even if they start appearing to treat you better, ignore them.

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Converse with them when you have to (work related issues etc.), but you need to show them with your silence that they aren't as important as they think. Treat them like children, even though some children act more maturely than they do.

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They delight in having authority over you, so don't let them have it.

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My solution to dealing with these people, is the same I would give for loads of other problems you may be facing. Get really good. Make sure they have nothing bad to say about you again. If there was slight truth to what they were saying about you, then make sure they can never amplify that claim again.

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Get right with Christ too. You may be persecuted, in the first place, just for following him. If you stay right with him, or grow your faith, he will take care of everything else for you. He will create a path for you leading to inevitable success.

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These people will not be in your life forever, and will have to face God's judgement at some point in their lives.

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They insult you based off of the things they may feel about themselves., or are scared that others may think it about them, so they put the attention onto you.

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People with these deep-rooted insecurities challenge others constantly because of their low self-esteem.

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• Don't be like them

• Avoid or Ignore them

• Use the anger you have against them as fuel to become better. Don't take it out on them

• Get really good

• Get right with Christ

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Do this to excel yourself into a new person, who they have accidentally created with their hatred towards you.

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